"Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule"-Buddha
Our personal experiences can influence our perception, appraisal of the situation and coping strategies. Under stress we do not have much thoughtful to processing information as when our lives are calm. Changing the relational meaning of what is happening is a very powerful and widely employed device for regulating stress and feelings. Self-regulation consists of learning to delay action, being aware of both what one is feeling and thinking as well as how one is presenting oneself. Our responses to stressful events are the key to successful adaptation and personal growth. The first step to coping with our life events is to aware of our own habitual reaction to the situation. The second step is to assume responsibility to engage our thinking in helpful ways. Third step will be to choose our action in appropriate manner so that we can cope with it more constructively.
3 'A'-Aware, Assume responsibility, Act
constructive action will be, check it
What is lacking in you? Each area is important to handle life events
1. Knowledge- gathers relevant information
2. Skills – acquire needed skills
3. Objectives- take a new look, make new meaning, have clear goal and plan
4. Practice – do the daily routine such as regular exercise diet, relaxation and carryout action towards the goal/plan
5. Social support – give receive help from others, talk to someone you trust
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